Ok having recently gone through separation after seven years it has come to my attention that relationships are
- A) difficult
- B) leave you feeling like shit when they are finished.
At the start of the night you are all excited perhaps starting to have a few drinks with your friends a little light headed with great great ambitions for what will come of the evening.
After a few months:
A few hours later you are in the middle of the night and your feeling content, maybe the night hasn’t gone to plan but at least your still having fun.
The Break-up:
The next morning has come, you are now hearing of the shit you did and can’t believe that you would be possible of doing such things, adding to this self esteem depression is the fact you feel like you going to be sick and your not sure if it’s due to the drinking or the embarrassment that it ever happened.
Now don’t get me wrong, those of you out there currently in a relationship probably think this could and never will happen to you. There is a possibility that it won’t, but when should it occur you will reach the phase that I now call ‘fucking over it’ when you see the other person out and it’s a surreal feeling because it almost feels like you are still together but then you see them trying to hook up with the strangest looking individuals (isn’t it weird how when you see an ex with someone else you almost instantly turn into a model thinking to yourself that ‘phhh I’m so much better looking than him/her) and it complete fucks you night.
Ok ok now that I have given you enough information to feel the pain next comes my solution (to date) go out but make sure you will not see the ex (actually seise all contact with the ex, mentally acting as if they are no longer on earth will greatly help you in the moving on phase) soon as you see a member of the opposite sex that you feel is up to your standards do not hold back and instantly talk to them. But in your head think that your actually to good for the person and you will be very very surprised at how that can change your confidence levels.
Overall I guess I really wonder what the point of a relationship is as after a few months things will never be the same you and the person know that, you know that the feeling that you both felt is gone for ever and can only be felt again when you find someone new. Its kind of bull shit how that feeling can only be found through moving on but then you carry the baggage of wanting the other person to not move on, to remain frozen until the day you want to feel shitty again.